I feel that you are talking about the a culture like us in egypt because we are muslims like you, I agree with the one who said that Hollywood had affect all the world not only us,Also i agree that we as men afraid from ladies that lies on their parents and may make sex with their boy friends, What i feel and i want to announce to all the girls in the world is that SEX befor marriage will not make you happy with your boyfriend after marriage but you will loose alot of respect because Allah (God) will leave you alone without support.from my bad experience ,i married my fiance that i kissed her befor and when i did so, i never think that we will fight with each other after marry. NOW,I am looking for a kiss at least from my wife,not sex,and i m always in problems with her,i think all that is a normal result to what happened befor marriage,

The Islamic culture is a good culture that makes a happy family really,and if u read about the old muslims you will feel the goodness of this culture.the rule (NO sex befor marry) is a normal rule and what they are doing in the western is not normal,now they are suffering from diseases and feeling lonely.because they dont think about making families….
SO PLZ UZBEK woman stay think in your culture you will be more respectable and loveable from your Creator and then from everyone..

Best wishes

a very interesting read, especially the comments. interestingly, it was mainly males who commented on the article, except for Shirin, and thank you for a brilliant comment. Being a Central Asian girl too I think I should make my own contribution to this forum, the way males think about what girls think about sex.
Kamron, is getting it quite close, there is no sex education in Uzbekistan, information about sex reaches the minds of girls quite late, and from quite dirty souces, it is not their mothers or teachers telling them all about sex. it is not even books, but rather talks in the streets with a little older girls. usually first knowledge about sex is shocking. Girls grow up in a manner where they are strictly instructed about hiding their bodies, being careful with opposite sex. Sex is a crime for an unmarried young lady. They dont think about getting pregnant, they think about parents, about honesty, about relatives, neighbours, what would they all say? brothers and fathers might kill them for this. and moreover every respecting girl wants others to think of her as of totally non-sexual creature, which means clean. The way Nakamatsu draws the picture of dirty europe and clean uzbekistan shows his traumatic look at sex. SEX is DIRTY for him! Dear Nakamatsu, I dont know if you lived in Uzbekistan or if you have been one of the little minority of men who didnt have sex before marriage because it was prohibited by religion, usually men are well experienced in these matters. What means well experienced? their experience is also gathered usually somewhere in dirty little rooms of either a little too stupid girls who cant appreciate themselves or a quite experienced elder women, who make their business. Nakamtsu, adultry is not a western innovation, it is UNIVERSAL! we in Uzbekistan had adultry way before we ever got so close to the western culture. it is a little troubling the way you idealise uzbek society, guess you havent been there for ages. If you want to know more about Uzbekistan, read some literature from Middle Ages, you will see then we had homosexuality (bacha-bozi), then we had adultry! We in Uzbekistan are not particularly clean or the West is not particularly dirty! and believe me, men didnt start committing adultry since hollywood films appeared! read Hamza at least, late 19th century and beginning of 20th centuries, ‘mysteries of paranja’, for instance.
I agree with Shirin, that the virginity concept is a very comfortable ground for men. and the scenario she depicted is quite a common one, but i would strongly disagree with putting the number of such cases to 90%.
i read a very interesting anthropological research work on the role of sacrifices in persian/tajik-speaking population of Central Asia, which goes as far to Zoroastrian times. There the wedding is described as an act of sacrifice, where the father is the one who sacrifices, the groom is a God to him the sacrifice is made, and the bride is a prey/sacrifice itself; virginity wasnt very important for the people of those times; but because the bride was seen as a sacrifice she was supposed to be virgin. previously zoroastrians would kill a sheep which not yet born babies, to sacrifice, i.e. virgin. but this puts a woman in a role of a passive gift to a man! and this goes on till now. after the marriage, the parents of the groom would telephone the parents of the bride and thank them for the virgin bride, for the good upbringing (if there was blood on the sheets of course). she is merely a gift to someone. this is how passive women are viewed to be.
Anyway, virginity and sex before marriage, is not the religious decision, it is the decision of the two.
Jamiyat was right asking the question of what boys think about sex. there are many stories of girls being seduced to lay with a man, to prove her love to him, and then he would leave her, because he thinks, she could do it to everyone else, she being unpure, and broken (it is interesting but this sort of wording is used with the girls who were supposedly not virgins anymore, they are being spoilt or broken). is it not mean?! what an interesting view have the boys got on the matter? Kamron, maybe this is another idea for another post?

best
a girl