What do Uzbek women think about sex?
This is a translation of the article which originally appeared on LiveJournal website. Some parts are omitted.
So, imagine there is a charming young lady, physiologically ready for “exploits”. But what is inside her youthful mind? There is basically following: “No sex before marriage, because it is not permitted” – it means that she is morally confident that it is bad, thus not needed. “No sex before marriage, because no one will marry me” – that is orient social directive on pre-marriage virginity. Moreover, “No sex before marriage, what if I get pregnant?” – in other words – no idea about contraception, although she knows about abortion, but it is scaring, so the hell with damn sex.
Let’s suppose that the lady somehow followed the path of sin and vice and “lost” her virginity. If she had intimacy with the one who will marry her (either because of true love or because of threats), then at the first wedding night (in fact second) fiancé would cut, most probably, his finger to get some blood mixed with saliva and spread that on bed-sheet presented to all next day. If she took the same path but ended up alone she still has to get married and she needs to be “innocent”. In that case there is a place called TashMI 2 (Tashkent Medical Institute - Kamron) where they got used to make “sewing” as well as abortions. That means non-virgin lady is brought back to a previous stage.
There is certainly more problematic option, when the path ends with two lines on pregnancy test. Then she either has abortion secretly, followed by getting married being not virgin, or she keeps a child and forces him to marry blackmailing him. Another option is to remain alone with a baby and without any chances to get married.
Most probably she has a little idea about contraception. As for our men – they just don’t like it and say the same excuse like everywhere. Taking into account that man’s word is a rule for orient woman, you can hardly find anyone arguing with that. As a result women get a whole bunch of illnesses. As in other parts of the world our local men bring lots of muck to their women. My cousin having done the same justified himself saying that when he was in business trip he had stale bed-sheets in a hotel, may be that is why his wife got syphilis. He told me that in her presence, my jaws were about falling on the table, while his wife took that bull shit on trust. Later, of course, I told him everything I think about him and about power of his imagination, advising him to be more creative next time. But the fact is that 90% of Uzbek women believe in such fairy tales. So one can make conclusions about our ignorance in that field.
Moreover we still have that psychological phenomenon about “no sex before marriage” because it is simply not allowed. On the other hand TashMI 2 is actively operating along with that phenomenon … so these mutually exclusive things somehow get along in our country.
Finally, as a result of that kind of “no sex before marriage”, in Tashkent men can survive picking up a prostitute or finding European girl with a normal thinking or persuading open-minded Uzbek girl or … but in province where there are no Europeans and very few prostitutes one can find flourishing pederasty and zoophilia – sheep and donkeys are always available.
on July 27th, 2007 at 2:05 pm
What do Uzbek BOYS think about sex?
It is fine for boys to have prostitutes and careless life, because one always knows there will be a young Uzbek chaste virgin girl to marry. So to say, an “untouched” and “non-filthy” girl. Macho traditions…
on July 28th, 2007 at 3:37 pm
In America, men believe that all of the good men end up with terrible men for husbands. The best demonstration of this axiom is Central Asia, where the best women in the world [Uzbek women] end up with the worst possible men [Uzbek men].
on July 29th, 2007 at 11:41 pm
Interesting. Recent research in Africa (Uganda, specifically) concluded that married men who carried on concurrent relationships (with prostitutes or companions they meet while far from home) contributed to the exponentional spread of HIV (as opposed to men who sleep with women serially, one at a time over a longer period).
Can you hear that tick? That’s the sound of an HIV epidemic waiting to explode in Central Asia.
on July 30th, 2007 at 12:55 am
TO Andrew,
HIV growth rate in Central Asia is already the highest among all the UNODC regions. you may find their report online. though, i suppose it must be more due to drug injections.
on July 30th, 2007 at 1:17 pm
High rates of HIV infection are usually a result of various factors; IV drug use being only one of many. IV drug use is a very specific resevoir for HIV; a group that tends to be self-contained and isolated. For HIV to really get going in the general population, you need to get to the general population, which is through lots of males (and females) having concurrent sexual relations.
on July 30th, 2007 at 2:10 pm
“No sex before marriage” conception is also due to the religious beliefs. In the big cities, it maybe mostly due to the culture of shame, but in the provinces, where people are more converted to Islam, people approach this problem from religious perspective.
on July 30th, 2007 at 5:05 pm
“a prostitute or finding European girl with a normal thinking”
So for you prostitution is ‘normal thinking’…?
on July 31st, 2007 at 2:38 pm
“What do Uzbek women think about sex?”
Actually, I had a good laugh when I read this title, for it could come straight out of Moskovskii Komsomolets right next to an article about the sex life of Alla Pugachova and Filip Kirkonov. :)))))
on August 6th, 2007 at 5:55 pm
actualy, this is my post from LJ…
http://lia-alias.livejournal.com/118288.html
please, edit your post and give the link
on August 7th, 2007 at 5:28 am
Hi, thanks a lot of correction, I was looking for original source, but neither in Centrasia, nor in other websites were that article appeared was any name or original sourse.
Thanks again
on August 7th, 2007 at 5:32 am
I’ll make necessary changes shortly
on December 20th, 2007 at 12:40 pm
Kamron: I’m certain the Uzbek “male way of thinking” is pretty predominant in most countries. Unfortunately, these men expect to marry clean, chaste women & possibly infect them! Turning the tables, why should a clean, chaste woman even want to marry a man who has been with other women? It works both ways. Or do you guys throw sacks over them & carry them away?
on May 9th, 2008 at 4:43 pm
I support the “no sex until marraige” concept, and I am planning to marry an Uzbek woman.
In Uzbekestan, the sexually transmitted desease rate is less than a tenth of a percent (.1%). Can you name any “open sex” country that can say that? Of course not.
If you cn’t wait for sex until you have a lifemate, then your reasons for wanting sex are entirely selfish, and you may not be mature enough to truly appreciate what an amazing and wonderful gift it is.
You say that no sex before marriage means: “No sex before marriage, because it is not permitted” – it means that she is morally confident that it is bad, thus not needed. “No sex before marriage, because no one will marry me” – that is orient social directive on pre-marriage virginity. Moreover, “No sex before marriage, what if I get pregnant?”
It does not to me or the woman I love. “No sex before marriage” means: “I have something so wonderful and amazing that only one very special person is going to be allowed by me to experience it, and they will expereience what no other person can, because I love them so much I want them to have me completely, and no one else.”
It means being able to give something exclusive to the one you love, and knowing that it won’t be taken lightly and peddles with someone else, because you will have a lifelong committment together.
Sex is not candy, to just pass out anywhere. For those who have sex promiscuously, it is like cotton candy - all fluff and no substance, and no long-term satisfaction.
But for those who treasure it as the wonderous gift it can be, and use it only in marraige, there is long lasting substance and meat to it.
on June 4th, 2008 at 9:57 pm
exotic thing,that’s what I have noted when I has visited Uzbekistan !!! no awareness …and that is the difference between society implements the Islamic canon and society doesn’t implement.the results is evident’s as per :Virginity absence -abortion operations.
on June 28th, 2008 at 9:34 am
Uzbek men prefer clean and fresh girls. So that he will not have thinking about girl’s previous boy friends and mostly boys don’t have sex before marriage as it is prohibited in religion. In the western countries there are too many troubles in family because fiance’s having sex with others with husband is away. And many families are spoiled because of this. In Uzbekistan a girl has only one sex partner (her husband). As for boy’s having sex with others it is because effecting western culture, because of many russian prostitutes in the streets. And boys are affraid to have sex with Uzbek girls before marriage. Afraid of taking Viginity. In europen countries males get married to torted pussy women. after that they are not satisfied and war in the family. In Uzbekistan males are satisfies with their wives. and girls once have sex with one male and she begins loving him. So all others who are fucking torted pussy don’t poke your nose into Uzbek culture. Fuck your torned big hole pussies. One more fact is there are to many homosexuals in european countries because males prefer to fuck male ass rather than women torned big hole pussy. In Uzbekistan there is no gay. Maybe but I have never known or seen or they maybe europeans.
So Kamron now you know what is the secret of Virginity in Uzbekistan. You have to think about why GOD has given Virginity to females not to males.